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February 2018

7 Ways to Maximize Your Budget

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If you don’t budget, you should. Even if, by some miracle, you have money pouring out of your ears, you should still have some sort of financial plan and outline. So let’s say you’ve taken care of the creating a budget part and now you’re looking to maximize it and stretch every dollar. This is the guide for you.

I’m going to skip over the things like “make coffee at home instead of buying a daily latte” because if you’re on a budget, you’re already not spending $5 a day on coffee (and if you are, you need more help than I can offer). This tip-sheet is about maximizing your budget by addressing the little things.

Related Reading: Creating a Bullet Journal

1. Adjust your diet

I’m not saying reduce down to Ramen noodles and peanut butter! Hopefully you can afford a little bit more than that. There are ways to adjust your grocery list.

First things first: stop spending money on “happy snacks”. You know, the food you eat that makes you happy but doesn’t give you any good nutrients; I’m talking about chips and cookies and donut holes. You love them, but you don’t need them. Don’t spend $3 on those Cheetos and instead get yourself two apples for $1.

Second, cut back on meat. I know, I know, how dare I suggest giving up bacon!? But I’m not. I’m just suggesting that you reduce. I won’t go on about the health and environmental benefits of a plant-based diet here, but instead focus on the financial benefits: it’s one less thing you have to buy, and meat is fairly expensive. For the $6 you would spend on some chicken, you could buy a bag of quinoa, some veggies, and eggs instead and still feel full. You don’t have to cut it out entirely, but switching to one day, two days, or weekdays without meat can provide a lot of benefits.

Third, get creative with your staples! With the right spices, you can do a lot with rice, beans, tomatoes… Check out our Pinterest board dedicated to eating on a budget, and/or this
Hot Mess Kitchen: Recipes for Your Delicious Disastrous Life cookbook.

2. Cancel Your Subscriptions

While getting athletic leggings for a third of the price at the store or boxes of snacks from around the world sent to your home each month sounds like a great deal, it can actually be a waste of money if you’re on a budget. Think about it: how many of those makeup products you get in your monthly subscription do you actually use after your first try them out? Maybe one out of five. So now you have a growing pile of products that you don’t use. See? Wasteful.

3. Sign Up For Smart Subscriptions

I know, I know, I just told you to cancel your subscriptions because they’re not budget friendly. But some of them are! Like Dollar Shave Club: for $9 or less a month, you get four razor heads sent to your house instead of spending $15+ at the grocery store. The little things add up, so shop smarter not harder… Does that work? We’re going to say it works.

4. Shop Sales and Stock Up

Make a point of shopping thrift and discount stores first whenever you can. Need a new pair of jeans? Check out TJ Maxx and Ross before going to a designer store; you just might get lucky.

And when your regular-buy items go on sale, buy them. Even if you already have one at home. (This is of course dependent on how strict your budget it). This happened to me recently: I ran out of my favorite Dry Shampoo but couldn’t spare any money to buy more. But behold! in my closet was a backup that I had bought the month before when it was on sale. At the same time, I had bought two bottles of mouthwash because it was a BOGO sale. If you know you buy it often–toilet paper, toothbrushes, canned beans–buy it when it’s on sale, even if you don’t immediately need it. In the long run, you’ll save yourself some cash and some heartbreak.

Related Reading: 7 Ways To Enjoy a Night Home Alone

5. Fill Out Surveys and Sign Up For Cash Back

Grocery stores will often have some sort of rewards system. In Colorado with King Soopers, it’s point towards gas discounts. At the bottom of my grocery receipt is a chance to fill out a survey and get an extra 50 gas points (I need 100 for $0.10 off every gallon). It’s a bit tedious, but it’s something I can do while watching TV, and if I do it twice in a month, I get my savings. It’s all about the pennies sometimes.

There are also great apps like ibotta that can earn you some more cents on the dollar and get you cash back. It’s not a get-rich-quick solution, but it adds up over time and can make for a nice gift to your future self.

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6. Think “Big Picture”

When you’re on a budget, every penny counts. But in the long run, it’s worth it to buy things like mouthwash and floss. Think about it: it’s cheaper to pay for these items than it is to pay for a cavity. Don’t sacrifice your health in the short run to save ten dollars: take care of yourself and avoid a $500 doctor bill.

7. Shop Where It’s Cheap

I already mentioned shopping at discount stores, but this time I’m talking about zip codes. Different cities have different prices and different sales tax percentages. Example: it cheaper for me to buy gas in Longmont than it is to buy it in Westminster; it’s a difference of a couple of dollars to buy food and goods in Westminster than it is in Denver. Now, I’m not going to drive thirty miles to save $0.05 per gallon of gas, but I make a point of filling up where it’s cheaper, even if it’s only a quarter of a tank. Things to think about.

 

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These are the tips that help me get through the rough patches and make the good patches all the better. What budget hacks do you use?

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February 27, 2018
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6 Reasons Why Being Single is the Worst

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My love life is a mess. I was what people call “a prude” throughout (most) of high school. When I got to college I was still “prudish”, but open to trying new things. I didn’t go crazy, but I did figure out what it was like to kiss someone who didn’t try to suck my face off. I learned the difference between good and bad, right and wrong, big and small… One of the most important things that I’ve learned is that being single when you’re 25 sucks. Since we already have a post saying how being single is okay, I’ve decided to make one saying why being single is the worst.

Related Reading: 3 Reasons to Love Being Single

In the beginning…

I want to start by giving you a little history on my love life. I’ve had two serious relationships. One was my freshman year of college and we dated for about a year, long distance. Then I went four years just dating (a.k.a Tinder, Plenty of Fish, random guys at parties) where nothing really interesting happened; well except for that one guy. The guy who was sleeping with me, while patching things up with his ex (which I didn’t know) and gave me an STD. I stalked his ex and told her to get tested and he got mad and called me a bitch and yada yada it was all my fault even though it was all his and he was being a big baby who didn’t get his way, whatever.

After that, I got with some guy who was mutual friends with my friend. We messed around and had fun, but he was (and still is) too immature, so we stopped after about a month.

When I was 24, I started a new job where I worked closely with one other girl in sales. We became close friends and she invited me to her wedding. This is where I met the guy I would be in my second longest relationship with. He was a year younger than me and he treated me like a princess, up until he became paranoid that I was cheating on him and then he cheated on me… I still don’t understand how that makes sense AT ALL.

Related Reading: The Things He Said, My Toxic Relationship

Now

So I’ve been single for about a year now, talking with guys off of various dating sites (Bumble being in the hot seat right now) and mistakenly sleeping with the guy I had messed around with after college again (don’t act like you’ve never gone back to an ex). The thing about becoming single after a serious relationship is that I’m reminded how good it is to be in a relationship. And then, it’s over and I’m back to square one.

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Here are the worst things about being single:

  1. Starting over

    Dating is awkward because I have to learn people all over again. Especially online dating, because I can’t get a genuine feeling about someone until we’re face to face. So sometimes it feels like I’m wasting all that time messaging someone I just don’t feel a connection with when we finally do meet. That sucks.

  2. No excuse

    When I go out with girlfriends to the bar, I can’t say that I have a boyfriend at home. Which, granted this can (does) work in my favor sometimes. I have such a heavy guilty conscience that I can’t lie well. So now I have to say I’m not interested and gamble him following me around the whole night or leaving it at that.

  3. Dry Spell

    You know exactly what that means. Toys are great, hook-ups are risky and repeats are frowned upon. There’s just no winning with this one. It’s just not the same.

  4. I have to buy things myself

    Yeah, I know how that sounds, but it’s the truth. Everyone likes getting spoiled by someone else. Personally, I enjoy being treated to dinner and a movie. I especially like getting flowers randomly. Sure, friends and family can do this, but it’s a different feeling when it’s from your boyfriend/girlfriend.

  5. It’s lonely

    I’m used to texting someone constantly throughout the day, and now that’s gone. No one to tell me they can’t wait to see me or tell me how beautiful they think I am. Not just that, but my boyfriend was my best friend; the one I could talk to about anything and not worry about being judged. I could be goofy, and he would never call me anything that would make me feel stupid or ugly. I always felt wanted.

  6. There’s a lot of free time

 It is a strange thing to complain about, but I like being busy. When I’m by myself, I think too much; I want to constantly be working to distract myself from how sucky life is (the 9-5 job, trying to plan days out with friends with a $5 budget, being a 5th wheel etc.). When I feel really down I think about all the things that I can do to change myself: being more patient, less pushy, less critical, put in more effort (tangent: I once had a boyfriend that asked me why I wasn’t wearing make up on a Sunday, saying he was always trying to look good for me, so why wouldn’t I reciprocate…). There’s a lot of dark thoughts I started to think about myself and my worth when the person I thought could be my forever bangs someone else.

Related Reading: How to Handle Getting Hit on at a Bar11 Messages You’ll Get on Plenty of Fish

This isn’t to say that there aren’t any good things about being single, there are. But let us not dwell on all the good things like actually having time for your friends, hogging the whole bed and farting without embarrassment in the comfort of your own home. It’s okay to say how much things suck sometimes.

 

What are your thoughts on being single?

 

February 21, 2018
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Things We Hate

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Last week we were all about the love, so this week we decided to share all the things we hate. And again, not all the things we always say we hate like traffic or money or dieting. These are more like pet peeves or just small things we tend to not like so much in everyday life. This time there are 13, because you should always have more things you love than hate.

 

Belle

I hate… being late, people that are late, and events that start late

I hate… when people say “good” instead of “well”

I hate… when a website says an item is in stock, but it isn’t

I hate… when people don’t use the Oxford comma

I hate… that English and language arts programs are underfunded and underappreciated

I hate… being told that I’m too young to understand

I hate… when my generation is criticized for our values

I hate… feeling like I have to choose between security and happiness/fulfillment

I hate… when my hair doesn’t work with me

I hate… running out of hot water in the shower

I hate… how expensive it is to dye my hair

I hate… when my knee hurts for no reason

I hate… the corner pieces of cake that are 80% frosting

 

Elena

I hate… getting honked at

I hate… not being able to fall asleep

I hate… the smell of Arby’s

I hate… when people say “huh” instead of “what”

I hate… when I fail

I hate… being cold

I hate… loud chewers

I hate… the sound of scooping gravy and mashed potatoes from the pan to my plate

I hate… mean/rude comments

I hate… when people make me feel stupid

I hate… having a dead end job

I hate… when something runs out and no one refills it (especially toilet paper and coffee K-Cups)

I hate… being single

 

 

What are some things that really drive you bonkers?

 

February 20, 2018
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Share the Love <3

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I love….

In lieu of Valentine’s Day, we thought it would be appropriate to create a post about 14 things we love. I’m not talking about the standard things that you say you’re grateful for around the table at Thanksgiving, like loving your family, friends, and your dog; we already know you have love for them. This post is about the little things we love that are less obvious, but still important in our lives.

 

Elena

I love…. the smell of rain

I love…. getting compliments

I love…. a good book

I love…. cuddling

I love…. laughing and making others laugh

I love…. feeling smart

I love…. feeling appreciated

I love…. the beach

I love…. the silence of the snow

I love…. wearing a big sweater and pajama pants

I love…. not caring about my appearance (not wearing make-up or doing my hair)

I love…. to travel

I love…. trying new things

I love…. helping others

 

Related Reading: National Sex Day (Guest Post by Deanna Samaan)

 

Belle

I love….sleeping in

I love….not wearing pants

I love….being silly with friends

I love….finishing a project

I love….when the thing I want is on sale

I love….making new connections and friends

I love….trading travel stories

I love….having my back touched/a good massage

I love….that women value community over competition

I love….new inspirations

I love….green landscapes

I love….fluffy alpacas

I love….next day compliments

I love….no-judgement dancing

 

Related Reading: 13 Ways to Celebrate Galentine’s Day, 3 Reasons to Love Being Single

 

What are the little things you love? Comment below! We’d love to see the two, five, or fourteen things that you love <3

 

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February 15, 2018
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National Sex Day: A.K.A. Valentine’s Day

 

Valentine's Day

 

Valentine’s Day, A.K.A. National Sex Day, is celebrated on February 14th. Why force love on one day, how about making any other day of the year as your Valentine’s Day? If you’re not ready to break from the traditional Valentine’s Day, then Cheers! Let’s enjoy a chocolate Cherry Cha Cha Cocktail. Chocolate Covered Cherry Cha Cha is a wonderful cocktail that you love that has both cherry and chocolate in it. The recipe is available at the end the post.

 

There is a holiday coming up called Valentine’s Day. Love it or hate it there is no escaping the hearts and Cupid’s that pop up in the stores. In fact, we see this red decor love fest displays right after Christmas.  The hearts and cupids are all around in the stores reminding you about February 14th.

Valentine's Day

What is Valentines Day? A day to profess your love to someone with chocolate and roses? Let’s not forget all the lingerie that men buy their sweethearts. My sister calls Valentine’s Day national Sex Day. Why? Well give a woman roses, chocolate and sexy panties, and they expect to get lucky. So as a woman, we are expected to shave our legs, don these panties and give our men this wild night of passion. All because of some little Cupid with an arrow says it is Valentine’s Day. In reality, that scenario just feels forced.

 

Valentine's DayI don’t know about you, but sex feels better when wild and passionate and unplanned. When it’s planned nothing seems to go right, either you are so stressed out, feels routine and boring, you’re just simply not in the mood. Now, these chocolates and fancy panties are supposed to make all that stress and not feeling in the mood stop for 20 minutes of sex? I say celebrate Valentine’s Day on a day you’re not expecting roses, like March 3rd. Why? Because it isn’t forced, and if it is, sex that day it would be mind-blowing!

 Pick a day and own it, be the sex goddess and enjoy YOUR Valentine’s Day.

Now some of you will say, “but I have kids”. Yeah, I get it, wild, passionate, spontaneous sex with kids might not work. Well, when the kids are in bed, go to your room, put on some hooker shoes and surprise your man.

 

Tonight you are not a mom, instead, you are some wild and exotic woman turning Valentine's Dayhour man on. Don’t come up with an excuse like, “I can’t wear those shoes”. Look, you’re not walking in them, just put on, sit on the bed and call him in. If you do it right honey, those shoes will never see pavement. It’s called the art of illusion. If your man asks what you’re doing, say “I’m giving you a surprise for Valentine’s Day”. When doing something unexpected and out the normal; you’d be surprised at how much you really enjoy it. It’s good to step out the little box we are in. It is all about the illusion, own some shoes that will never see pavement!

Bottom line is, sometimes it’s better if we call the shots when comes to National Sex Day, oops I mean Valentine’s Day. Don’t settle for the forced gratuity of pleasure in exchange for flowers and chocolate on February 14th. Pick a day and make that your Valentine’s Day. Pretend you are a teenager and do something out the ordinary and most of all, make something you enjoy. Trust me, tune into your inner sexy goddess, we all have it within us, and own Valentine’s Day, on any day you want to celebrate it on.

Valentine's Day cocktail

Chocolate and cherries in a bubbly cocktail! Oh, My!

Ok so maybe you’re not quite that ready to break from Valentine’s Day Traditions. That is okay, but the thought is in the back of your head, and that is good.

So let’s relax now with a wonderful cocktail, the Chocolate Cherry Cha Cha:

What you’ll need:

  • 1 ounce of Cheery Rum
  • 1/2 ounce of Whipped Cream Vodka
  • 1 ounce of Chocolate Vodka
  • 1 ounce of Club Soda

 

Meet the Author

Guest PostPour yourself a drink, put on some lipstick, and pull yourself together.” – Elizabeth Taylor

Deanna Samman (Dee) is a native to Pittsburgh, living in Cleveland, OH. Her first blog, Seduction in the Kitchen, has built Dee’s appearance on the internet in the blogging world. When she discovered she had a niche for lifestyle and relationship posts, she decided to create a Wine and Lipstick, a blog meant for bringing single women together over cocktails. We are honored to have Dee as a guest author and hope you look into her blogs in the future!

 

February 12, 2018
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13 Ways to Celebrate Galentine’s Day

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Regardless of if you’re single, in a relationship or dating, we highly encourage you to celebrate a once fictional, but now very real holiday, Galentine’s Day. Galentine’s Day is a day to celebrate friendship with all your lady friends! The holiday was invented by Leslie (played by Amy Poehler) in the T.V. show, Parks and Recreation. You can learn more about this “holiday” here. If you’re unsure how to celebrate Valentine’s Eve, we’ve come up with some ideas to share with you and all your girl friends, with some recommendations on items that one or both of us personally use!

Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. That means that if you click through and make a purchase, we will earn a commission, at no additional cost to you. 

 

1. Ladies’ Wine Night

Everyone brings a bottle of wine and you have your own exclusive wine tasting in the comfort of your (or your friend’s) house! To make this into a competition, go out and buy something cheap (like this!) that’s related to wine and have that be the prize for the best wine!

Galentine's Day

 

2. Old Fashion Slumber Party

Screw looking cute, peel off those skinny jeans or even tight leggings and throw on your comfiest pair of pajama/yoga pants, hoodie, no make-up and hair in a messy bun. This is the judge free zone, where you can finally try that black face mask going around Facebook and YouTube that literally peels the outside layer of your face off (this one is the similar, cheaper brand Charcoal Peel Off Mask). Have a chick flick playing on the T.V. like Mean Girls, eat crap food and drink wine, and paint each other’s nails while one person reads aloud the humiliating stories in the back of Cosmopolitan.

 

3. Cookie/Cupcake Decorating

Forget the diet: bring me some sugah! Though you may need to prep this ahead of time (Elena’s mom’s recipe says to make sure the dough is refrigerated at least four hours prior to baking) you can roll out some dough and make heart shaped cookies (because these are your girlfriends and you love each other) and frost them with some white, red and pink dyed cream cheese frosting (because cream cheese is the best frosting and if you don’t think so, no cookies for you). Also if you aren’t into cookies, you can do cupcakes or even cake cookies! Elena’s sister makes these and they are the perfect balance between a cupcake and a cookie and are so moist and delicious!

 

4. Go to the Bars…in your sweat pants

Because this is about the girls, not getting the guys! And getting drunk. Cheers!

 

5. Get a Couple’s Massage (or a couple’s date package), but go with your BFF!

Take advantage of them sales! Especially ones on Groupon that give you an even better discount.

 

6. Paint Night

Go out to a place like Pinot’s Pallet, or host one at home. Belle bought some paint-by-numbers canvas paintings that we will be working on for months, that would be fun to start! Elena went to a friend’s house where they painted wine glasses (while drinking wine from a separate glass of course). Elena also had nights were she went out and bought water color or drawing paper in bulk and we drank wine, painted and watched Friends in the background.

Galentine's Day

7. Makeover Night!

Do like what we used to do in our mom’s bathroom (or older sister’s make up collection) as a kid and play with your make-up for new looks! Now is the time to share how you do your eye-shadow, what colors you use and what kind of primer helps all that glitter stick to your eye and not get in it. Now’s your chance to learn how to get that perfect smokey eye! Or maybe you have that friend who knows how to do the perfect liquid eyeliner wing that you’ve been wanting to learn for months. Just remember, don’t share mascara and probably eye-liners to avoid diseases, cause gross. For even more fun, finish a bottle of wine by yourself before attempting a make-over on your BFF and making her “beautiful” with blue eye-shadow and pink blush that’s been under your sink for three years.

 

8. Host a “Tupperware” Party

Yeah, that’s what our mom’s call it, but we all know we’re referring to a sex toy party, or make-up I guess, but mostly sex toys. It wouldn’t be the first time we’ve hosted a Pure Romance party, and what timing having Single’s Awareness Day the very next day! Or Valentine’s Day if you’re in a relationship, they still have some fun S&M things that could make your night even more special.

 

9. Photoshoot!

Get all the gals together, get glammed, and have a photo shoot! Or just gather random things around your house and buy some cheap accessories that are normally in a photo booth to create your own, boas, glasses, hats (on your phone with your selfie stick).

Elena and Belle pose within a hung empty picture frame. Belle holds up a paper crown and Elena has a prop plaque that reads "still single!"

 

10. Craft night!

Learn to knit, cross stitch, make a collage… with wine, of course.

 

11. Gift your Bestie some Flowers and Chocolate

And get some for yourself, too, because let’s be real, you’ll be eating it together anyways, might as well get two containers so you can avoid fighting over the last piece. Then that way you have someone to complain with when both your stomachs hurt because you ate two whole giant heart boxes full of questionably flavored chocolates.

 

12. Go Braless!

Let the girls be freeeee! You’re with your girlfriends anyways, and likely they all have boobs too and know the struggle of the wired bra. For 10 hours a day. At LEAST. Whip that thing off!

 

13. Themed Potluck

If you’re having a girls night and you’re a little tight on money, host a potluck! The best part about this is that you can choose whatever theme you want, related or unrelated to the holiday: mexican food, italian food, your favorite recipe your mom makes etc. Or you could be like, okay, we are all girls and there are no boys, so let’s make this like a bachelorette party and have penis-pun food: little wienies, hot dogs, popsicles, banana split (you get the idea).

 

Regardless of what you decide to do, make this a friend’s day for you and your girls and have fun!

February 8, 2018
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W(h)ine About It: Blogger Communities

 

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So you’ve started a blog after reading four or five different “Start a Profitable Blog in 5 Easy Steps” tutorials. You bought your domain, set up your site, wrote several posts, created beautiful images for Pinterest… but your site isn’t getting enough traffic. Solution? Join blogger communities on Facebook!

Right?… Except it isn’t exactly what you expected, at least in the aspect of helping boost your views and encourage discussion.

Don’t get us wrong, the groups are wonderful! We’ve gotten some interaction, have discovered other great blogs to follow, and have learned some pretty nifty stuff. But there are six short-fallings that no one acknowledges. Until now:

 

Post and run

Blog-com pages generally have themes each day to help promote all aspects of your blog, things like “Twitter Tuesday” and “Feedback Friday”. You post a link in the comments for people to like, share, pin, comment on, retweet, etc. The idea is to post yours and then interact with other people’s blog posts that they’ve shared.

Except no one does.

Well, not no one. That’s harsh. But maybe one in ten actually follow through. We get that you can’t interact with everyone: ain’t nobody got time for that! and sometimes you just can’t connect. Example: we’re not going to comment on your mom blog where you wrote an article comparing plastic vegetable toys to felt ones. We’re not moms. We don’t have kids. We buy actual vegetables. As a result, we can’t pin your stuff to any of our Pinterest boards and can’t authentically interact with your post. So we skip it and put our efforts into someone else’s post about skincare, which we care about because we have skin.

Meanwhile, the content we posted hasn’t been touched by the 50 people that posted before it nor by the 273 that posted after. It gets to be a bit frustrating, and in turn makes us not want to engage in other posts because why should we put in so much work without it being reciprocated?

It should be as simple as it sounds: scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours, right? But no, their post hasn’t received any interaction and they’re so busy and don’t have the time to even GLANCE at another post before or after theirs. Well guess what, Sharon, maybe we don’t have the time to look at your recipe for your vegan, gluten free brownies that probably taste like sidewalk chalk with a side of suck. We get it if you don’t like what we write about, but comment on something else: what would you change about the appearance of the blog? was it easy to navigate? would you follow my instagram? are the images clear and organized? It’s not that hard to give some sort of feedback to people. We won’t follow them unless their topic somehow relates to my own (because that’s what I’m interested in–again, sorry mom blogs), but we can comment on the picture: the quality, the hashtags, etc.

 

Click on my ads (illegal and…no)

A way to generate revenue from your blog is to install ads. Depending on which agency you go through, you might earn money only if the ad generates sales, or if the ad is merely clicked on. On some blog-com pages, individuals will start “click for click” posts for people to literally go click on each other’s ads to generate income. Not only is this a bit spammy, but in some situations it fringes on illegal actions (misuse of the system, false number generating…thanks but no thanks). Some admins are really good about getting this kind of content removed. Other times, you just have to scroll on past it. Or you can report the post as well or comment (if you’re really not concerned about what others will think of you).

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Everyone is accepted as long as they have a blog…

In order to join blog-coms, you have to have a blog. Shocking, we know. In many cases, it doesn’t matter what kind of blog as long as it’s your blog. Great in theory, but not in practice. This means there are a lot of blogs that are amateurly done: it’s a free platform, it’s unorganized, and don’t even get us started on spelling and grammar….

Remember how we talked about not being able to interact with blog posts about plastic vs. felt carrots because we’re in our young twenties and are living off peanut butter and ramen? We don’t mind that because there are other mom bloggers in the group that do care about it! But 99% of us don’t care about your latest achievement on the phone app games you play (yes, there really are blogs dedicated to that stuff). And as much as we want to travel the world and interact with people from around the globe, we can’t read your blog if it’s written in Russian. So we’ll keep scrolling.

 

Where are the police!?

Hello, Admin, yes we’re pointing at you; if you’re going to start a fire, you should know how to control it. On nearly every page, there is a page or post stating what the rules and regulations are (these are often stated on the post too, a.k.a directions). This should be easy enough to read and follow, but for all those greedy people who simply “don’t have time” to interact with others, but have plenty of time to respond to comments on their blog or their post, it’s not worth following. The thing about the rules and regulation posts is that, even though they are intimidating (and there’s nothing more humiliating than getting kicked off a bloggers page on Facebook), they are RARELY followed. Hey, Admin, I’ve commented on 5 posts and I see Felicia hasn’t commented on any and yet she has 4 likes and 2 comments… Care to do something about that?? A simple “bye Felicia” would do the trick.

 

Is anyone going to answer my question? Hello? No?

Many of us are newbies; we aren’t going to know everything. But that’s why we joined a community. Odds are, someone out the the 500 bloggers will know how to create a “Contact Us” page with a good plugin. Or how to fix the SEO on a page. Or what backlinks are. And yet….*crickets*

One of the problems could just be because no one sees the comment. So turn it into a post! Boom, everyone has a notification that you need help. Except their notifications have been blowing up all day because of the 300 comments on the one post they commented on. And what do they have to gain by helping you? Nothing. So what do they do? Nothing. Meanwhile, our questions are still unanswered. So much for community…kaboompics_Young woman working in a cafe

 

Required interaction

Some blog-coms have heard our pleas and answered with required interaction. Theory = great, practice = thanks, but no thanks. If you’ve joined a few blog-coms, more than likely you’ve seen a thread that sounds something like the following:

“Comment Thread: Post a link to your blog post and then comment on ALL comments in this thread. This thread will close after ten comments”

Whoopee, a guaranteed nine comments on your post! If you get less than that, then someone is about to get the boot from the group. Done and done. But, oh, wait, three of the posts are to mom blogs, one is to getting over an addiction, and another is to some news story about a wedding in India. We can’t relate to any of this, nor do we have an interest to. We could comment, but it would just be fake and that doesn’t sit right with us. So it looks like we’re the ones getting the boot…

 

Related Reading: W(h)ine About It: The Little Things

 

Whenever we post on another post on the thread, we say what we’ve done–commented, liked, shared, followed etc.–and what our blog name is (so people know who the heck we are) because that’s what the POST SAYS TO DO. But the people who refuse to interact are so incredibly frustrating. So these groups on Facebook have been great when they actually interact, but be warned, there will always be people (and Admin) who don’t follow directions or enforce the rules.

**To clarify, we love our blog-com groups. Without them, we’d be three miles behind where we are now. We just want to call out some bull-shit that we see and hopefully get some laughs (and results). 

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February 6, 2018
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Reading List for 2018

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A little over due, but still here nonetheless!! Since we haven’t yet read any of these, we’ve included the summary on the back of each book. Also check out the links if the book is becoming a movie!

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Here are the books we’re looking to cross off the list this year:

 

 A Wrinkle in Time by Madeleine L’Engle

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/33574273-a-wrinkle-in-time?“It was a dark and stormy night. Out of this wild night, a strange visitor comes to the Murry house and beckons Meg, her brother Charles Wallace, and their friend Calvin O’Keefe on a dangerous and most extraordinary adventure– one that will threaten their lives and our universe.”

Watch the trailer here

 

 

 

 

 

What Alice Forgot  by Liane Moriarty

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6469165-what-alice-forgot?ac=1&from_search=true“Alice Love is twenty-nine, crazy about her husband, and pregnant with her first child.

So imagine Alice’s surprise when she comes to on the floor of a gym and is whisked off to the hospital where she discovers the honeymoon is truly over — she’s getting divorced, she has three kids and she’s actually 39 years old. Alice must reconstruct the events of a lost decade, and find out whether it’s possible to reconstruct her life at the same time. She has to figure out why her sister hardly talks to her, and how is it that she’s become one of those super skinny moms with really expensive clothes.

Ultimately, Alice must discover whether forgetting is a blessing or a curse, and whether it’s possible to start over.”

 

 A Man Called Ove by Fredrik Backman

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18774964-a-man-called-ove?ac=1&from_search=true“ALL YOU NEED IS OVE.

At first sight, Ove is almost certainly the most grumpiest man you will ever meet, a curmudgeon with staunch principles, strict routines, and a short fuse. People think him bitter, and he thinks himself surrounded by idiots.

Ove’s well-ordered, solitary world gets a shake-up one November morning with the appearance of new neighbors — a chatty young couple and their two boisterous daughters — who announce their arrival by accidentally flattening Ove’s mailbox with their U-Haul. What follows is a heartwarming tale of unkempt cats, unlikely friendships, and a community’s unexpected reassessment of the one person they thought they had all figured out.”

Watch the trailer here.

 

 

Where’d You Go, Bernadette? by Maria Semple

https://www.goodreads.com/book/photo/13526165-where-d-you-go-bernadette“A compulsively readable and touching novel about misplaced genius and a mother and daughter’s role in an absurd world.

Bernadette Fox is notorious. To her Microsoft-guru husband, she’s a fearlessly opinionated partner; to fellow private-school mothers in Seattle, she’s a disgrace; to design mavens, she’s a revolutionary architect, and to 15-year-old Bee, she is a best friend and, simply, Mom.

Then Bernadette disappears. It began when Bee aced her report card and claimed her promised reward: a family trip to Antarctica. But Bernadette’s intensifying allergy to Seattle – and people in general – has made her so agoraphobic that a virtual assistant in India now runs her most basic errands. A trip to the end of the earth is problematic.

To find her mother, Bee compiles email messages, official documents, secret correspondence – creating a compulsively readable and touching novel about misplaced genius and a mother and daughter’s role in an absurd world.” – Synopsis from Goodreads

 

 

The Pact  by Jodi Picoult

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10916.The_Pact?ac=1&from_search=true“From Jodi Picoult, one of the most powerful writers in contemporary fiction, comes a riveting, timely, heartbreaking, and terrifying novel of families in anguish — and friendships ripped apart by inconceivable violence. Until the phone calls came at 3:00 A.M. on a November morning, the Golds and their neighbors, the Hartes, had been inseparable. It was no surprise to anyone when their teenage children, Chris and Emily, began showing signs that their relationship was moving beyond that of lifelong friends. But now, seventeen-year-old Emily has been shot to death by her beloved and devoted Chris as part of an apparent suicide pact — leaving two devastated families stranded in the dark and dense predawn, desperate for answers about an unthinkable act and the children they never really knew.”

 

Six of Crows by Leigh Bardugo

Book cover for Six of Crows by Leigh Bardugo“Criminal prodigy Kaz Brekker has been offered wealth beyond his wildest dreams. But to claim it, he’ll have to pull off a seemingly impossible heist:

Break into the notorious Ice Court
(a military stronghold that has never been breached)

Retrieve a hostage
(who could unleash magical havoc on the world)

Survive long enough to collect his reward
(and spend it)

Kaz needs a crew desperate enough to take on this suicide mission and dangerous enough to get the job done – and he knows exactly who: six of the deadliest outcasts the city has to offer. Together, they just might be unstoppable – if they don’t kill each other first.”

 

Outlander by Diana Gabaldon

Book cover for Outlander by Diana Gabaldon“The year is 1945. Claire Randall, a former combat nurse, is just back from the war and reunited with her husband on a second honeymoon when she walks through a standing stone in one of the ancient circles that dot the British Isles. Suddenly she is a Sassenach—an “outlander”—in a Scotland torn by war and raiding border clans in the year of Our Lord…1743.

Hurled back in time by forces she cannot understand, Claire is catapulted into the intrigues of lairds and spies that may threaten her life, and shatter her heart. For here James Fraser, a gallant young Scots warrior, shows her a love so absolute that Claire becomes a woman torn between fidelity and desire—and between two vastly different men in two irreconcilable lives.”

 

 

February 1, 2018
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