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8 Ways to Relieve Stress

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Relieve Stress

You’re at that point again. That same one that always creeps up on you and hits like a ton of bricks. It leaves you close to tears out of frustration: you’ve approached the deadline for a paper, your boss asked you about something you forgot to do two days ago and now you’re scrambling to get it done and dog s*** on the carpet again. Life gets overwhelming and we’ve all hit those breaking points where we just want to give up and bury our heads in a hole.

Instead of that, consider these 8 ways to relieve stress:


1. Exercise

Yeah, we all complain about it, but frustration and anger are the best motivators to work out! When I get to the gym, I’m pumped because I’m there to move. When I’m on that bicycle, I think about all the insults I’ve ever gotten, even if they’re ones I’ve said to myself: “Why is there so much cellulite on your legs?”, “Why aren’t you wearing make up, it’s like you’ve stopped trying”, “If you weren’t so dramatic, maybe you’d fine someone to actually be in a relationship with”, “It only happened twice”, “You never showed me you cared about me”. Yeah well f*** all you guys, because I’m cycling up this giant mountain on this stationary bike while flipping you all off. Use the frustration to your advantage, that’s all I’m saying.


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2. Break Something

I’m completely serious. The majority of the time you’re stressed, you’re frustrated. I had a professor tell me once to take all the glass bottles from my recycling and a bucket or bin and take it to a remote spot. From there, make sure the bin is empty and you throw those bottles as hard as you can into it. It’s an easy clean up and it’s gets your aggression out. Just be sure the bin is far enough away so that there’s no tiny shards of glass coming back at you.


3. Meditate

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This may should cliche, but there are a lot of ways to meditate: yoga, sitting in silence, praying, reading, walking etc. Take time to yourself in silence or with calming music and close your eyes. Imagine your happy place and take a few deep breaths to clear your mind.


4. Scream

Get it out of your system. Go somewhere desolate and yell all sorts of profanities. How much you hate your calculus professor because they humiliated you in front of a 200 person lecture, how unfair your job is because you’re paid less than coworkers even when you have more relevant experience, how upset you are at your partner because they gave you logical reasons to why you shouldn’t impulsively adopt that dog from the pound. Just get it all out.


5. Organize

Get out your planner and figure out what you’re doing the rest of the day, week and month. When you can see what you’re life looks like in front of you, it’s easier to manage. Write out everything you need to get done and fit those tasks into time slots. Check lists are the best because we have so much satisfaction crossing something off! One simple accomplishment is better than none.


6. Clean

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Cleaning is so refreshing. It feels so good when you’re done getting all the crap off the surface and having the room smell nice and look like it came out of an IKEA magazine. I find doing dishes is very therapeutic, since it requires no real thought, your mind can just wander. If you have a really greasy dish, scrub the crap out of it to release some of that frustration! The only thing you’re doing is making it cleaner, it’s a win win.


7. Get Intimate

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: sex is good for you. Get that dopamine flowing, whether it’s with someone else or alone… I’m not just talking about sex either. Even a touch from someone else can make a difference. This is why hugging, snuggling up under a blanket with someone on the couch or suffocating your cat while whispering “I love you” as they try to escape your grip is good for you! Having that closeness with someone else creates the sense that you aren’t alone.


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8. Watch a Documentary

Preferably on Outer Space. Do you realize how big our universe is? HELLO! You are one tiny being in this entire world of billions of people and creatures and microbes. Your issues are smaller than that. Yes, they are still there and you need to do something about them, but don’t make them bigger than they actually are. You’re capable of anything you set your mind too, you just need a different perception on your issues to see just how small they are.


The next time you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a deep breath and realize that there are ways to get past the frustration. What are the things that help you get back on track?

March 19, 2018

When It’s Been a Long Week, and It’s Only Monday…

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It’s really hard for me to get motivated. I start thinking about things I should do, but I don’t do them. I have a lot of doubts about myself and my decisions. This weekend got me on a pretty low level. Let me reiterate this first weekend in March for you and tell you how I was built up, torn down, but still standing.


I recently joined a company that is essentially a Costco for Travelling. If you know what I’m talking about, you already know what it is, and for those of you who don’t, I’m sorry but I can’t explain it here. It’s kind of like me explaining how I liked a movie, but you have to see it to know what I’m talking about. So I joined  a few weeks ago and have invited my friends to check it out. I took one friend who is incredibly smart in business. He owns his own business and has built it all pretty much by himself. He asked a lot of questions, and by the time we were heading back home, he had me thinking a lot about my life; especially my financial decisions. Yes, this group has potential to make residual income, but you have to work hard at it and I think it’s easier to explain to strangers than people who know me well.


So I found myself freaking out, trying to figure out what the hell I was doing. I have been a temp employee at my 9-5 job for 7 months with an hourly rate that isn’t enough to pay my necessary bills a month. I work some weekends with high school kids for hours and make less money in two days than I make in one day at my weekly job. I’ve been looking at different jobs, but with all the debt I have, I don’t have a lot of flexibility to relocate. I have four credit cards I need to pay off on top of my other debt and my car is barely halfway through the lease period. It seems like I have more than I can financially handle.

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Since my boss was out of town, I decided to do some work for the blog (posting on social media (if Belle hadn’t already) and trying to figure out IFTTT). On top of that, I was trying to budget because I knew my payment dates were coming up.

Then after all of that, Belle and I headed down to Highlands Ranch to judge a high school speech and debate. We’re paid by round, and each round has 5-6 kids usually. I enjoy doing this, but it is exhausting and my hand cramps up after a couple of rounds from writing critiques.

Instead of driving all the way home, we crashed with my parents twenty minutes away from the school. It was 8:30 p.m. when we left and I had made $27.



Belle and I got up at 6:00 a.m. to arrive at the high school at 7:30. From there, we stay until about 2 p.m (which is a SHORT day, usually we are there to well after 8 p.m.). By the time we were done with that I had earned $54 in total (almost enough to cover my utility bill for the month!).

Since we had an early day, I decided to message my ex that lives in Denver, let’s call him Peter. Okay, I know what you’re thinking- but we had barely dated, than were Friends with Benefits, then decided to hang out and grab a drink casually. It’s fine, as much as Belle would disagree… Anyways, Peter wanted to go to REI and get new hiking boots and wanted me to come with. I told him when I could be there, and then he told me he had plans in an hour to meet up with a friend of his that I didn’t like. And Peter knew I didn’t like him and I avoid seeing him because he’s an a**hole. So I texted back saying I’d changed my mind and would just go home.

The reason why Peter and I never dated was because he was so hot and cold. He’d want me to hang out with his friends, but say no when I invited him to hang out with mine. He’d spent the night at my house ONCE during the 2 years we’d been doing whatever it is we’re doing, and has given me one compliment to which I cried because it was so unexpected.


The way he reacted to me backing out was incredibly frustrating. He told me that it was f***ed up I made him wait on me and I was being dramatic- “typical Elena”. I couldn’t understand why he would still want to be friends with me after saying all these horrible things that I’d done to him. He had bailed on my birthday because he had “s*** going on” and I wouldn’t understand, he told me he liked having sex with me and he missed me, but not like that- as a friend hanging out, and claimed that I always thought people (meaning him) are screwing me over, when it’s probably me that’s to blame for once… So I told him it’d be better if we weren’t friends. He took that well by telling me to “stop being so dramatic and you may find someone who you can have a relationship with”. Really regretting my decision on unfriending this guy…

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I made plans to meet up with one of my closest friends. I expected it to be the same kind of conversation we usually have- how the same guy she’d been off and on for for years was still treating her like s***, how we wished we could vacation and had loads of money to spend. But this time was different. I told her about the messages I had got the day before from Peter. She then proceeded to tell me how Peter had reached out to her begging her to go on a date with him and he would talk to me about it to make sure it was okay… So not only had he EVER asked me if he could date one of my best friends, he was just going for it, meanwhile texting me to come over at 10 p.m. on a Saturday night. “I’ll buy your Uber, just come over.”


By the time Monday rolled around…

So here I was completely humiliated and disappointed in myself and my poor decisions. I was struggling financially and felt like I was back to square one. I had gone back to the same guy who treated me like garbage and let him. My friend had to awkwardly tell me how he had been pushy with her and she had felt awkward and never replied. I felt like a complete failure. A part of me thought Peter was right, that maybe I was a s*** friend and that’s why so many of my “friends” had run away when I told them about an idea I was really excited about. I felt unattractive, not good enough, not successful and not pretty.

So I sat on my floor and cried.

Then I got a message from my mentor with a motivational video saying how I was good enough. Peter had unfriended me on social media, so I wouldn’t be able to see what he was up to anymore, and I didn’t care. I went to a wedding shower and won a contest matching Disney songs to the movies (obviously with 100%). I went to dinner with my friend who I hadn’t seen in years, and his fiance and had a really good time. My parents called me to see how I was doing and my sister had bought K-Cups for the Kureg for the morning. I had good things happening, I just needed to acknowledge the worst, react to it and get past it.


No matter how low you may feel in this life, there will always be more good than bad. Don’t let the turkeys get ya down, because you are beautiful and good enough.


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March 5, 2018